We're living in an increasingly sexualized world, and it's the young—particularly young women—who must deal with the consequences. Kids are having more sexual contact than ever, and at an earlier age. They call it "hooking up." But what is "hooking up"? According to Laura Sessions Stepp, a reporter at the Washington Post, hooking up eludes a neat definition. It can be anything from an innocent kiss to sexual intercourse.
In Unhooked, Stepp follows three groups of young women (one in high school, one each at Duke and George Washington Universities). She sat with them in class, socialized with them, listened to them talk, and came away with some disturbing insights, including that hooking up carries with it no obligation on either side. Relationships and romance are seen as messy and time-consuming, and love is postponed—or worse, seen as impossible. Some young women can handle this, but many can't, and they're being battered—physically and emotionally—by the new dating landscape. The result is a generation of young people stymied by relationships and unsure where to turn for help.
"The need to be connected intimately to others is as central to our well-being as food and shelter," Stepp writes in Unhooked. "In my view, if we don't get it right, we're probably not going to get anything else in life right."
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About the Author
Ellen Archer is an acclaimed audiobook narrator and winner of the coveted Audie Award for For the Love of a Dog by Patricia B. McConnell, PhD.
What People are Saying About This
This is a fascinating look at the sex lives of young women. It should be required reading for all young women - and their parents. (Hilda Hutcherson, M.D., author of What Your Mother Never Told You About Sex)
Young people talk candidly to Laura Stepp about their sexual and social lives because she listens with an open mind and a generous heart. Their stories - compelling, disquieting, at times heartbreaking - provide hard but essential truths for anyone who raises, teaches, or mentors girls in today's world. Unhooked is on my must-read list for parents and their high school and college-age children. (Deborah Roffman, human sexuality educator and author of Sex and Sensibility: The Thinking Parent's Guide to Talking Sense About Sex)
In Unhooked, Laura Stepp contributes insight as illuminating as Betty Friedan's in The Feminine Mystique. Equal parts sleuth, favorite aunt, and therapist, Laura clarifies for the reader how hooking up damages young women's self-esteem and creates emotional anesthesia. Her astute analysis and stories will change how we educate and counsel young women. Unhooked needs to be read by parents, clinicians, researchers, educators, and especially young women and young men. (Judith Steinhart, Ed.D., co-creator of the website Go Ask Alice! and co-author of The Go Ask Alice Book of Answers: A Guide to Good Physical, Sexual, and Emotional Health)
A riveting and shocking book. Laura Stepp's superb investigative work raises questions that are as compelling as they are appalling: Are young women accepting as okay sexual behavior that isn't okay and never has been? Can girls really act like boys and get away with it emotionally? What happens when boys who have no sexual boundaries place upon them grow up to be men? This is a book you can't stop reading and you won't stop talking about.
Unhooked is a remarkable book: astute, insightful, and rigorously reported. By investigating the struggles young women face as they navigate the differences between sex and love, Laura Stepp shows us how rocky a road that can be. This book and the issues it raises demand the attention of all of us - young and old, children and parents, women and men. (William Raspberry, Duke University professor, columnist, and author of Looking Backward at Us)
Every parent, college administrator, and student will benefit from this study of the hookup culture on college campuses across America. Stepp focuses her scholarly journalism on the most intimate sexual and emotional details of college life, explaining concepts such as "battle buddy," "date auction" and "freakin," and the result is an extraordinarily candid depiction and a set of remarkable findings. Although freedom for these girls has replaced intimacy, their emotional needs are poignantly described. This is a path-breaking study - one not soon forgotten. (H. Keith H. Brodie, M.D. and president-emeritus, Duke University)
"The expert discussion is enhanced by Ellen Archer's no-nonsense reading.... I can't imagine a more skilled and appealing performance." -AudioFile
A compelling account of the causes and potential consequences of a noteworthy change in the sexual mores of contemporary American youth - the decoupling of physical and emotional intimacy. Laura Sessions Stepp carefully weaves together case studies, hard data, and expert opinion in a masterfully constructed narrative that is engaging and forceful without resorting to exaggeration and hyperbole. It's an important and provocative book. (Laurence Steinberg, Ph.D., Temple University professor and author of You and Your Adolescent: A Parent's Guide for Ages 10 to 20 and The Ten Basic Principles of Good Parenting)