Raising Myself: A Memoir of Neglect, Shame, and Growing Up Too Soon

Raising Myself: A Memoir of Neglect, Shame, and Growing Up Too Soon

by Beverly Engel


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No one could have imagined how as a child Beverly Engel could have managed to become who she is today—an internationally known expert on abuse recovery and the best-selling author of twenty-two self-help books. This is the raw, candid story of how she made her way in the world in spite of her mother’s neglect, unreasonable expectations and constant criticism; in spite of being sexually abused, first at four years old and then at nine; and in spite of being raped at twelve.

Raising Myself takes readers on a remarkable journey, showing us how Engel, who was basically on her own from the age of four, learned how to cope with a neglectful, narcissistic mother while being surrounded by a cast of characters that included eccentrics and misfits, a religious fanatic, child molesters, rapists, and hoodlums. It is a soul-searching memoir about how she came dangerously close to the edge of becoming a child molester, a criminal, and a suicide, and how she battled her inner demons and struggled to keep her heart open and to “reinvent” herself so she could follow her dream of making something of herself. Powerfully inspiring and unflinchingly honest, Raising Myself is a story of remarkable resilience and insight.

Product Details

ISBN-13: 9781631523670
Publisher: She Writes Press
Publication date: 04/03/2018
Pages: 320
Sales rank: 670,510
Product dimensions: 5.40(w) x 8.40(h) x 1.10(d)

About the Author

Beverly Engel has been a practicing psychologist for thirty-five years and is an internationally recognized psychotherapist and acclaimed advocate for victims of sexual, physical, and emotional abuse. She is the author of twenty-two self-help books, including the best-selling Healing Your Emotional Self and The Right to Innocence. In addition to her professional work, Engel frequently lends her expertise to national television talk shows. She has appeared on Oprah, CNN , and Starting Over , and many other TV programs. She has a blog on the Psychology Today website, regularly contributes to Psychology Today magazine, and has been featured in a number of newspapers and magazines, including O, the Oprah Magazine, Cosmopolitan, Ladies Home Journal, Redbook, Marie Claire, The Chicago Tribune, The Washington Post, The Los Angeles Times, The Cleveland Plain Dealer , and The Denver Post.

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Anonymous More than 1 year ago
Too many memoirists skip or gloss over struggles inherent in recovering from abuse—going right from a depth of gory detail to a pinnacle of glorious overcoming. Beverly Engel expertly fills the gap between the experience of trauma and survival of it with moving, relatable accounts of her struggles. Although many of her experiences are heartrending, Engel writes with balance, injecting the right amount of detail to illustrate the circumstances without overwhelming the reader or minimizing the horrible situations she endured. Yes, Engel is an accomplished author and psychotherapist who dreamed, set goals, and achieved great things. Yet in Raising Myself, she deftly weaves successes and struggles in a way that offers hope to those who are still on the journey of healing from their own abuse. You will laugh with her, cry with her, and wish there were more at the end of the book. Beverly Engel is a great storyteller; the memoir has the feel of a novel partly because the characters are so vividly portrayed. The story is real, the protagonist relatable, the writing superb. Having had a neglectful mother, I so identify with what Engel wrote, “I went outside and sat in my sandbox, letting the still-warm sand cradle me”. Those who have suffered abuse or neglect will glean insight from her experiences and find comfort that they are not alone. Readers who know people who were abused – people on what Engel calls “the six paths of trauma,” eg addiction, crime, etc. – will better understand those survivors. Great read, highly recommend, can’t wait for part two!