God designed marriage for the companionship of man and woman. Genesis 2:18 says "It is not good for man to be alone; I will make him a helper suitable for him". God, therefore, made a woman to correspond to man in order to be an associate, and a partner of equal dignity before God.
God has equally designed marriage for the mutual help of husband and wife (Genesis 2:18). This is to complement each other physically, emotionally, and spiritually. "Two are better than one; because they have a better reward for their labour" (Ecclesiastes 4:9), the scriptures declare.
God has also designed marriage for the purpose of Procreation (Genesis 1:27-28). Marriage is the right context to raise off-springs. Moreover, children are a gift from God and our timing and desires may not always be God's plan. Psalm 113:9, Psalm 127:3-5; Deuteronomy 7:13 and Deuteronomy 28:4 highlight this truth. Thus, barrenness, late arrival of children, number of children, and combinations of sexes of children will always be the prerogative of God almighty. Barrenness is heart breaking, but is a real possibility for some and in such circumstances, adoption may be considered.
God has additionally, designed marriage as the legitimate setting for sexual intimacy (1Corinthians 7:2, 9). Every person must drink from their own cistern. The husband and wife must not deny each other and must not seek sexual satisfaction outside marriage.
On a higher level, God designed marriage so that the marriage relationship can reflect Christ's relationship to his people, the church. The husband's love to the wife should reflect Christ's sacrificial love as revealed in the epistle Ephesians 5:25-30. The marriage relationship must portray Christ's love to the world.
According to the divine framework of marriage, only death should end the marriage union (and at the second coming of Christ when all marriages shall be dissolved, because in heaven there are no marriages, as Luke 20:34-36 tells us). Matthew also tells us:
"For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh. So then, they are no longer two but one flesh. Therefore, what God has joined together, let not man separate" (Matthew 19:4-6).
Moses of the bible permitted dissolution of marriages because of the stubbornness of man (arising from our fallen nature). However, marriage was not initially supposed to end this way because the Lord hates divorce (See also Matthew 19: 8-10).
A successfull courtship journey culminates into the solemn exchange of vows pledging love and fidelity. A successful courtship journey will result into a solid marriage foundation that will stand the various marriage turbulances. A successful courtship journey will commit to the duty to love as Christ loved the Church, and to submit as the church submits to Christ.
The marriage mandate is clear:
"What God has joined together,
let no man put asunder!"
This book is dedicated to the young people; it is an experiential account to guide and encourage the persuits of laying a solid foundation for future marriages.