Option B: Facing Adversity, Building Resilience, and Finding Joy

Option B: Facing Adversity, Building Resilience, and Finding Joy

by Sheryl Sandberg, Adam Grant


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#1 New York Times Best Seller
Named a Best Book of 2017 by Barnes & Noble and Amazon 

From Facebook’s COO and Wharton’s top-rated professor, the #1 New York Times best-selling authors of Lean In and Originals: a powerful, inspiring, and practical book about building resilience and moving forward after life’s inevitable setbacks.

After the sudden death of her husband, Sheryl Sandberg felt certain that she and her children would never feel pure joy again. “I was in ‘the void,’” she writes, “a vast emptiness that fills your heart and lungs and restricts your ability to think or even breathe.” Her friend Adam Grant, a psychologist at Wharton, told her there are concrete steps people can take to recover and rebound from life-shattering experiences. We are not born with a fixed amount of resilience. It is a muscle that everyone can build.
Option B combines Sheryl’s personal insights with Adam’s eye-opening research on finding strength in the face of adversity. Beginning with the gut-wrenching moment when she finds her husband, Dave Goldberg, collapsed on a gym floor, Sheryl opens up her heart—and her journal—to describe the acute grief and isolation she felt in the wake of his death. But Option B goes beyond Sheryl’s loss to explore how a broad range of people have overcome hardships including illness, job loss, sexual assault, natural disasters, and the violence of war. Their stories reveal the capacity of the human spirit to persevere . . . and to rediscover joy.
Resilience comes from deep within us and from support outside us. Even after the most devastating events, it is possible to grow by finding deeper meaning and gaining greater appreciation in our lives. Option B illuminates how to help others in crisis, develop compassion for ourselves, raise strong children, and create resilient families, communities, and workplaces. Many of these lessons can be applied to everyday struggles, allowing us to brave whatever lies ahead. Two weeks after losing her husband, Sheryl was preparing for a father-child activity. “I want Dave,” she cried. Her friend replied, “Option A is not available,” and then promised to help her make the most of Option B.
We all live some form of Option B. This book will help us all make the most of it.

Product Details

ISBN-13: 9781524732684
Publisher: Knopf Doubleday Publishing Group
Publication date: 04/24/2017
Pages: 240
Sales rank: 25,697
Product dimensions: 5.30(w) x 8.70(h) x 1.10(d)

About the Author

SHERYL SANDBERG is chief operating officer at Facebook, overseeing the firm's business operations. Prior to Facebook, Sheryl was vice president of Global Online Sales and Operations at Google, chief of staff for the United States Treasury Department under President Clinton, a management consultant with McKinsey & Company, and an economist with the World Bank.
Sheryl received a BA summa cum laude from Harvard University and an MBA with highest distinction from Harvard Business School.
Sheryl is the co-author of Option B: Facing Adversity, Building Resilience, and Finding Joy with Wharton professor and bestselling author Adam Grant, which will be released April 24, 2017. She is also the author of the bestsellers Lean In: Women, Work, and the Will to Lead and Lean In for Graduates. She is the founder of the Sheryl Sandberg & Dave Goldberg Family Foundation, a nonprofit organization that works to build a more equal and resilient world through two key initiatives, LeanIn.Org and OptionB.Org (launching April 2017). Sheryl serves on the boards of Facebook, the Walt Disney Company, Women for Women International, ONE, and SurveyMonkey.

ADAM GRANT is a psychologist and the New York Times best-selling author of Originals and Give and Take. His new book, Option B with Facebook COO and Lean In author Sheryl Sandberg, debuts April 24, 2017.
As Wharton’s top-rated professor for five straight years, Adam is a leading expert on how we can find motivation and meaning, and live more generous and creative lives. He has been recognized as one of the world’s 25 most influential management thinkers and received distinguished scholarly achievement awards from the American Psychological Association and the National Science Foundation.
Adam received his B.A. from Harvard University with Phi Beta Kappa honors and his Ph.D. from the University of Michigan. He serves as a contributing op-ed writer for The New York Times on work and psychology. His keynote speaking and consulting clients include Facebook and Google, the NBA, Teach For America, and the U.S. Army and Navy.
Adam is a former Junior Olympic springboard diver. He lives in Philadelphia with his wife, their two daughters, and their son.

Table of Contents

Introduction 3

1 Breathing Again 19

2 Kicking the Elephant Out of the Room 41

3 The Platinum Rule of Friendship 61

4 Self-Compassion and Self-Confidence 79

5 Bouncing Forward 106

6 Taking Back Joy 131

7 Raising Resilient Kids 149

8 Finding Strength Together 180

9 Failing and Learning at Work 202

10 To Love and Laugh Again 222

Building Resilience Together 253

Acknowledgments 255

Notes 263

Index 343

What People are Saying About This

From the Publisher

“Option B is as hopeful as it is heartbreaking. Here are stories of sometimes unimaginable pain and loss, but also of how human beings nonetheless have the capacity to endure and even thrive. This book is not just an absorbing read. It also provides lessons that everyone needs to learn.” —Atul Gawande, author of Being Mortal

“Illuminating, original, and deeply inspiring, Option B is one part riveting memoir, one part heal-your-heart boot camp, one part stories of others who learned to thrive in the face of profound loss: a practical, vital contribution to the literature on loss and resilience.” —Cheryl Strayed, author of Wild

“I recommend this inspiring book to everyone around the world. None of us can escape sadness, loss, or life’s disappointments, so the best option is to find our Option B.” —Malala Yousafzai, Nobel Peace Prize winner

“Sheryl writes about her own heartbreaking experience with a rare honesty. Then she and Adam translate her personal story into a powerful, practical guide for anyone trying to build resilience in their own lives, communities, and companies. It’s hard enough to resonate with readers. It’s even harder to help them take concrete steps toward a better future. Option B does both.” —Bill and Melinda Gates, co-chairs of the Bill & Melinda Gates Foundation

“Thoughtful, insightful, and compelling. Both individually and collectively, we all need to understand the power of rehabilitation, recovery, and redemption if we are to overcome adversity. This incredible book doesn’t avoid the loss and tragedy we all sometimes encounter, but it is animated by a resolve that is both inspiring and instructive.” —Bryan Stevenson, author of Just Mercy and founder of the Equal Justice Initiative

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Option B: Facing Adversity, Building Resilience, and Finding Joy 4.4 out of 5 based on 0 ratings. 15 reviews.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
I havent been much for reading others' opinions on how best to proceed down my road following my wife's death. Grief is personal, contextual and different for each of us. The best advice I had read was Stephen Colbert's wonderful interview about "accepting the bomb" - hating that the event had happened (be it death, illness, relationship/job loss) with every ounce of your being, but, eventually accepting that it had. But this book focuces on an equally important aspect, resilience. It is like a muscle. The more you use it, the stronger it becomes. Over my entire adult life I used it daily - at home, at work, in relationships. It helped both my wife and me raising a severely disabled daughter who showed us resiliency every day of her 26 years. It helped me over the course of a decade of chemo treatments that lead to the inevitable outcome of metasticized cancer. I was supportive, I was strong, I was.... resilient. But my world-class resiliency has gotten soft I realize. I'm doing fine in so many ways. My other daughter met a great guy, got married, and brought a beautiful grandson into this world. I am developing relationships and social networks. The only way (I now realize thanks to Grant and Sandberg) I can become the best possible version of 'me' is to rebuild my resiliency to where it once was. This book is a roadmap for doing that, and I'm already getting started!
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
A week ago my girlfriend broke-up wiith me. We were together for 5 years. This book really helped me move forward and understand that happinness is within us and life goes on.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
Awesome read, coming at a time in my life when I needed it most. Good not only for those who have lost a loved one but also for those who've suffered any type of grief.
nhr3bookcrazyNR More than 1 year ago
LOVED IT! A book on grief that is honest and yet doesn't pull you down into the depths of despair. It always makes you believe that a person suffering from grief WILL get through the pain and come out on the other side. And there are some wonderful ideas to practice to get you through. And lots of personal experiences shared. I really thought the book was GREAT.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
A book worth reading especially when you are going through a traumatic event
Irene Olson More than 1 year ago
watched the Super Soul Sunday episode where Oprah Winfrey interviewed Sheryl Sandberg. That was all it took for me to immediately download Sheryl's book. Grief is a subject matter that few excel at experiencing, and even fewer at understanding others' grief. Ms. Sandberg and Adam Grant expertly and thoughtfully usher the aggrieved and those witnessing another's grief, through the learn-as-you-go devastating process. A must-read for anyone who will lose a loved one in their lifetime...that's all of us.
Sarah_UGA 12 months ago
Good book to get through or anticipate grief In her book, Sheryl Sandberg is not only telling the ordeal she faced but gives advice to get through personal grief or help relatives with that. This book is particularly sad, but this sorrow gives a sense to the whole story. It’s interesting how Sandberg gives details and overtakes the taboos. I would also recommend watching one of her TED talk before reading to be even more immersed by the autobiography. Suspense and emotion can be found all along the story, as well as advice given by the people who experienced or studied the grief. As a HR student, I think the suggestions can be used by managers and the HR department mainly within their support job. These managers want the best for their people at work, but it is sometimes forgotten that personal life impacts the professional world. This book offers advice for both problems at work and in personal life to reach a healthy balance. The author tells a lot of story about relatives to introduce each hardship and many data support the assumptions. Finally, the story is easy and interesting to read. That’s why I recommend this book!
Anonymous 12 months ago
I am a student at the University of Georgia studying Human Resource Management. I was assigned to read this book for my introduction to HR class. I found Option B to be a very personal and intimate book. Option B tells of Sandberg’s devastating loss, the grief she faced, and how she came out of it with a new view on life. Option B has advice for people who are grieving, but it is also a book for nearly everyone. For example, it helps people who may not know what to say to someone in the event of tragedy. Also, within Option B there are lessons for how to make business organizations more resilient. These lessons include knowing how to better help employees recover from a loss or crisis and creating a workplace environment that is prepared to deal with failure. Overall, Option B is a great book that is a guide to help those who have directly suffered loss or are close to someone who has. I cannot wait to apply what I have learned from this book not only to my own personal life, but to my professional life as well.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
You have to read to take your own conclusions
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Burncoatgirl More than 1 year ago
This book is not appropriate for anyone in the early stages of grief, especially the loss of a spouse or a child. THe author's details are accurate and very powerful. Sit down in your B&N store and read the first ten pages. If you can get through that without falling apart, purchase the book and take it home. Read it in small doses, very small, maybe a chapter or less per sitting. If it is too powerful for you, save it on your list for another day. Seriously, there is great power in this book, maybe it will help you, maybe not. But the timing of your personal reading of it has to be right.
BMedvid More than 1 year ago
Interesting but incomplete read... I found Option B to be an informative read. I chose to read it because I am going through some life transitions at the moment that require facing adversity, building resilience, and hopefully finding joy. I was looking to her story in the hopes of finding some insight that I could use in mine. Sandberg's situation dealt with the sudden death of her husband and how she grieved, processed this, and dealt with the aftermath. She had some strong suggestions in terms of the 3 Ps that stunt one's recovery, how to achieve post-traumatic growth, and concrete suggestions on how others can be supportive and encouraging during a friend or family members time of adversity. I found many good takeaways from her perspective and experience. I also admired how Sandberg took her personal tragedy/what she learned from it and translated that into more understanding, flexible, and family-first policies in her workplace. I am sad that one has to experience such a tragedy personally to recognize how it impacts people and their work, but I am glad that employees of her company will benefit. I hope that she will be a trend-setting leader with this regard. I also hope her store will help build compassion and better understanding in those who have not had to face such a personal tragedy/adversity. One aspect of her story that I could not relate to was that all of this happened to her while she was in a very secure financial and supportive family/friend/employment situation. To her credit, she openly acknowledges this in her book as well as the ease/benefits it afforded her. She does note that adversity like this is harder on single parents, people with lower income, and less flexible work situations and she says we need to help them/change this but offers little in way of solutions. I would like for her to have explored/researched more about facing adversity, building resilience, and finding joy for people in less fortunate situations than hers. The other aspect of the book that did not resonate with me was that one of her 3 Ps is permanence. In order to face adversity successfully one needs to view it as not permanent. However, many types of adversity are permanent for people, chronic no-cure illness is one. I think it would have been a more thorough story if she had addressed facing adversity for people with permanent issues too. Aside from those two issues, Option B was an interesting and informative read.
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