Eight Dates: Essential Conversations for a Lifetime of Love
Eight Dates: Essential Conversations for a Lifetime of Love

Eight Dates: Essential Conversations for a Lifetime of Love

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Strengthen and deepen your love with a fun, ingenious program of eight life-changing conversations—on essential topics such as money, sex, and trust—from two of the world’s leading marriage researchers and clinicians.
Navigating the challenges of long-term commitment takes effort—and it just got simpler, with this empowering, step-by-step guide to communicating about the things that matter most to you and your partner. Drawing on forty years of research from their world-famous Love Lab, Dr. John Gottman and Dr. Julie Schwartz Gottman invite couples on eight fun, easy, and profoundly rewarding dates, each one focused on a make-or-break issue: trust, conflict, sex, money, family, adventure, spirituality, and dreams.
Interactive activities and prompts provide motivation to stay open, stay curious, and, most of all, stay talking to each other. And the range—from the four skills you need for intimate conversation (including Put Into Words What You Are Feeling) to tips on being honest about your needs, while also validating your partner’s own emotions—will resonate, whether you’re newly together or a longtime couple looking to fortify your bond. You will discover (or rediscover) your partner like never before—and be able to realize your hopes and dreams for the love you desire and deserve.

Product Details

ISBN-13: 9781523504466
Publisher: Workman Publishing Company, Inc.
Publication date: 02/05/2019
Pages: 224
Sales rank: 7,846
Product dimensions: 5.50(w) x 7.90(h) x 0.70(d)

About the Author

World-renowned for his work on marital stability and divorce prediction, John Gottman, Ph.D., has conducted 40 years of breakthrough research with thousands of couples.  His work on marriage and parenting has earned him numerous major awards, including four National Institute of Mental Health Research Scientist Awards. He is the author or coauthor of more than 40 books, including the bestselling The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work; What Makes Love LastThe Relationship CureWhy Marriages Succeed or Fail; and Raising An Emotionally Intelligent Child. Dr. Gottman’s media appearances include Good Morning America, Today, CBS Morning News, and Oprah, as well articles in the New York Times, Ladies Home Journal, Redbook, Glamour, Woman’s Day, People, Self, Reader’s Digest, and Psychology Today. Cofounder of the Gottman Institute with his wife, Dr. Julie Schwartz Gottman, John was also the Executive Director of the Relationship Research Institute. He is Professor Emeritus of Psychology at the University of Washington, where he founded "The Love Lab" at which much of his research on couples’ interactions was conducted. He lives in Seattle.

Julie Gottman, Ph.D., is a clinical psychologist and the cofounder and President of The Gottman Institute. She is the cocreator of the immensely popular The Art and Science of Love weekend workshops for couples, and she also co-designed the national clinical training program in Gottman Couples Therapy. She is Author/co-author of five books: Ten Lessons to Transform Your Marriage, And Baby Makes Three, 10 Principles for Doing Effective Couples Therapy, The Man’s Guide to Women, and The Marriage Clinic Casebook. Julie lives in Seattle.

Doug Abrams is president and founder of Idea Architects, a literary agency, as well as an author and editor. His most recent bestseller is The Book of Joy, with The Dalai Lama and Desmond Tutu. He lives outside Santa Cruz, CA.

Rachel Carlton Abrams, M.D., is an integrative physician and the author of the book BodyWise. She and Doug live outside Santa Cruz, CA, and have three young adult children.

Table of Contents

The Conventions that Matter 2

Your Date Night 20

The Four Skills of Intimate Conversation 28

The Art of Listening 34

Date 1 Lean on Me: Trust & Commitment 38

Date 2 Agree to Disagree: Addressing Conflict 67

Date 3 Let's Get It On: Sex & Intimacy 90

Date 4 The Cost of Love: Work & Money 113

Date 5 Room to Grow: Family 141

Date 6 Play with Me: Fun & Adventure 156

Date 7 Something to Believe In: Growth & Spirituality 182

Date 8 A Lifetime of Love: Dreams 199

Conclusion: Cherish Each Other 215

Appendix: More Open-Ended Questions 220

Bonus Date Night Exercise 224

Acknowledgments 226

Endnotes 230

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Eight Dates: Essential Conversations for a Lifetime of Love 5 out of 5 based on 0 ratings. 2 reviews.
Anonymous 10 months ago
Very useful and insightful. We have been married 26 years and we found it enlightening and forged a new connection that had been lost
marongm8 More than 1 year ago
This is the ultimate book for every couple married or not. A lot of us underestimate the significance and effectiveness of going on dates. Whether its to the movies, walks in the park or beach, or even a fancy dinner, the time you share with your significant other is very special and in one way shape or form we all take it for granted. Eight Dates provided great ideas and examples for dates to have for a better connection physically and mentally. This book is essential for all couples. We will definitely consider this title for our Non-Fiction collection at the library. That is why we give this book 5 stars!