Don't You Ever: My Mother and Her Secret Son

Don't You Ever: My Mother and Her Secret Son

by Mary Carter Bishop

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Overview

“In this profound memoir, Mary Carter Bishop takes an openhearted and unflinching look at a family history that is equal parts love story and requiem for a brother she barely knew. Bishop turns her formidable investigative journalism skills inward to unearth long-simmering class and culture divides in bucolic rural Virginia."--Beth Macy

From a prizewinning journalist, Mary Carter Bishop, a moving and beautifully rendered memoir about the half-brother she didn’t know existed that hauntingly explores family, class, secrets, and fate.

Applying for a passport as an adult, Mary Carter Bishop made a shocking discovery. She had a secret half-brother. Her mother, a farm manager’s wife on a country estate, told Mary Carter the abandoned boy was a youthful "mistake" from an encounter with a married man. There’d been a home for unwed mothers; foster parents; an orphanage.

Nine years later, Mary Carter tracked Ronnie down at the barbershop where he worked, and found a near-broken man—someone kind, and happy to meet her, but someone also deeply and irreversibly damaged by a life of neglect and abuse at the hands of an uncaring system. He was also disfigured because of a rare medical condition that would eventually kill him, three years after their reunion. During that window, Mary Carter grew close to Ronnie, and as she learned more about him she became consumed by his story. How had Ronnie’s life gone so wrong when hers had gone so well? How could she reconcile the doting, generous mother she knew with a woman who could not bring herself to acknowledge her own son?

Digging deep into her family’s lives for understanding, Mary Carter unfolds a sweeping story of religious intolerance, poverty, fear, ambition, class, and social expectations. Don’t You Ever is a modern Dickensian tale about a child seemingly cursed from birth; a woman shattered by guilt; a husband plagued by self-doubt; a prodigal daughter whose innocence was cruelly snatched away—all living in genteel central Virginia, a world defined by extremes of rural poverty and fabulous wealth.

A riveting memoir about a family haunted by a shameful secret, Don’t You Ever is a powerful story of a woman’s search for her long-hidden sibling, and the factors that profoundly impact our individual destinies.

Product Details

ISBN-13: 9780062400741
Publisher: HarperCollins Publishers
Publication date: 07/30/2019
Pages: 272
Sales rank: 322,565
Product dimensions: 5.20(w) x 7.90(h) x 0.80(d)

About the Author

A graduate of Columbia Journalism School, Mary Carter Bishop was on the Philadelphia Inquirer team that won a Pulitzer Prize for its coverage of nuclear leaks at Three Mile Island. Her Roanoke Times & World-News series on poisonings and fraud by exterminators and other pesticide users won a George Polk Award and was a Pulitzer finalist.

Table of Contents

Part I Two Funerals

1 Losing the Brother I Hardly Knew 3

2 Losing the Mother I Thought I Knew 12

Part II The Parents Who Raised Me

3 My Mother: Gentle Hands and Foul Moods 23

4 My Father: Joy, Wonder, and Self-Hate 28

Part III Our World

5 The Kingdom of the Rich 35

6 The People in the Big House 44

Part IV The Lie

7 Original Shame 59

8 On Her Own 70

9 Polly and Roy 78

10 Freaky Little Bastard 91

11 Truth at the Kitchen Stove 111

Part V Finding and Losing Ronnie

12 I Walk into His Barbershop 125

13 We Get Acquainted 135

14 What Was Wrong 154

15 Trying to Help 176

16 Losses, Gains, Losses 193

Part VI Learning Still

17 Unearthing Ronnie 211

18 Our Family Shrivels 217

Part VII A Finer Sifting

19 I Draw Closer 225

20 Walking with Them 236

Epilogue 243

Acknowledgments 251

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