Confident Moms, Confident Daughters: Helping Your Daughter Live Free from Insecurity and Love How She Looks

Confident Moms, Confident Daughters: Helping Your Daughter Live Free from Insecurity and Love How She Looks

by Maria Furlough


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Every mother wants her daughter to love the skin she's in, to be free of insecurity and poor body image. But no matter how much we try to tell our daughters that they are beautiful and lovable as they are, words are not enough. And if we're honest, we don't always set the best example of being body confident. Until we truly see ourselves as good enough, our girls will struggle.

With deep compassion, Maria Furlough delves into the root causes of our insecurity, offers biblical guidance for seeing ourselves as God sees us, and shows how to model our newfound confidence to our impressionable daughters. Speaking as a daughter, a youth leader, and a mother, Furlough shares her own struggles and triumphs, as well as expert advice from a pediatrician, a nutritionist, a Christian counselor, and more.

What we say to our daughters might last a moment. What we show our daughters lasts a lifetime. With God's help, we can put aside our obsession with bodily perfection and refocus on becoming and raising godly women.

Product Details

ISBN-13: 9780800735210
Publisher: Baker Publishing Group
Publication date: 08/20/2019
Pages: 208
Sales rank: 283,941
Product dimensions: 5.40(w) x 8.40(h) x 0.60(d)

About the Author

Maria Furlough is a wife to her husband, Dave, and a mother to one amazing eleven-year-old daughter, three ridiculously fun boys, and one baby boy who lives in the arms of Jesus. She teaches women's Bible studies and works as the Missions Team Leader at Lake Forest Church in Huntersville, North Carolina, and she is a former full-time youth pastor.

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Confident Moms, Confident Daughters: Helping Your Daughter Live Free from Insecurity and Love How She Looks 4.9 out of 5 based on 0 ratings. 27 reviews.
Librarycataloger 4 days ago
As I read this book, I was sorry that I didn't have it when my own daughter was young. She is now grown and a self-assured woman, but she didn't always feel that way about herself. Confident Moms, Confident Daughters is filled with wonderful advice that mothers can share with their daughters. Author Maria Furlough uses personal experiences, Bible scripture, and reliable research to show how we can improve our daughters' self-esteem and free them from insecurity. Each of the twelve chapters have a Confident Moms Challenge--- Confident Daughters Discussion Questions---and A Mom's Prayer. There is also a Confident Moms, Confident Daughters Manifesto at the end of this book that is based on Proverbs 31 and it has so many beautiful thoughts but the ending verses are especially powerful and best of all, they apply to ALL of us! I am beautiful because I know that physical beauty fades and you won't catch me putting my value in looks. I am beautiful because I trust the Lord above all else. I am beautiful because I am God's daughter. We mothers may not be able to leave leave our daughters a huge inheritance when we die, but we can offer them a priceless gift. We have lived through the different stages that they are now experiencing, we have felt the same emotions, and it is through overcoming our own insecurity that we can now help them conquer their own. We can assure them that their beauty lies within and that they are beautiful because they are a child of God! I received a complimentary copy from Revell but I am voluntarily sharing this review. These are my honest thoughts.
Sprinkle23 10 days ago
In Confident Moms, Confident Daughters, author Maria Furlough aims to encourage and equip moms who desire to help their daughters live free from insecurity in an image-obsessed culture. The author balanced well the ideas of “true beauty” and physical beauty. She emphasized “true beauty” as most important, but validated the feminine desire for physical beauty. She gave practical tips to help a mom feel confident about her physical characteristics. She encourages a woman to focus on what she loves about her body and play to those strengths by purchasing clothes that fit well or trying a new makeup style. In short, use and enjoy what works for you. She is not saying to dress provocatively. Rather, she’s encouraging women to be clothed with “strength and dignity” (a phrase by her daughter on page 138) and that includes dressing in clothes that make one feel strong and confident. Being confident yourself is a crucial step to helping your daughter be confident in her body. My main takeaways from Confident Moms, Confident Daughters were: 1.) Don’t speak negatively about your body or your daughter’s body. 2.) Don’t vent or dump your issues on your daughter. Talk to the husband, friends, or family, but don’t make your daughter carry your burdens or issues. 3.) Reflective listening. 4.) Honest communication and connection creates an inroad for you to be able to speak truth to your daughter about this crucial issue. I recommend Confident Moms, Confident Daughters by Maria Furlough to any mom. I will keep this book and reread it in the future. The discussion questions to talk with your daughter about are more appropriate for tween and teen girls. My daughters are much younger and I don’t think they would completely understand or process the questions deeply. Still, the information in the book is valuable as I can start applying the recommended practices when they are young. Disclosure of Material Connection: I was provided a copy of this book by the publisher. All opinions in this review are my own.
amybooksy 12 days ago
Confident Moms, Confident Daughters: Helping Your Daughter Live Free from Insecurity and Love How She Looks is a must have. I found it to be inspirational to read. I will be referring back to it as my daughter gets older and hits those tough years. All daughters need to learn to love themselves and this book gives great advice on how to help them to do so. I highly recommend Confident Moms, Confident Daughters: Helping Your Daughter Live Free from Insecurity and Love How She Looks. It gets a well deserved five plus stars from me. I received this book from the publisher. This review is 100% my own honest opinion.
Anonymous 17 days ago
This book resonated so much with me! I love the perspective that Maria brings about this struggle that so many women face. The book equipped me to strenthen my confidence and model a Godly confidence for my daughter. A MUST read for all moms of daughters!!!
FayJac 18 days ago
Girls and women are very insecure about themselves. They are bombarded on every side by a society that proclaims fitness and beauty above all else. Girls are watching not only their friends and TV shows and magazines but their mothers as well. When mothers feel insecure about themselves or dislike their body type, they are teaching their daughters to do the same. This is an excellent book that provides ways to build up our daughter's confidence and that of ourselves. She helps us see ourselves as God sees us, deals with root conflicts and gives interviews with “experts” such as a pediatrician, nutritionist, etc. Each chapter ends with challenges, questions to ask ourselves and/or our daughters and a prayer to God. This book is great for mothers of adolescents and pre-adolescents. It is helpful whether your daughter is young or grown. I found it very interesting and full of good advice. Maria Furlough gives many examples—both good and bad of her own life. She writes with sincerity and compassion. I highly recommend this book. Read this book and let's have more confident mothers and daughters! (Please Note: While a copy of this book was given to me to review by Revell, a division of Baker Publishing Group, the opinions expressed are my own.)
JulesQuilts 18 days ago
I need this book just to be a confident woman!! It is do encouraging that we are and can be confident women!! Maria adds in nuggets from other women who are in their personal stories of how they handled various struggles in their lives. There are things for the adult to think about and questions and activities to do with a daughter as you walk together learning confidence as a woman. I'm basically out of the demographic of this book but I got it anyway. It is THAT good! My daughter is early 30s and more successful than I could ever imagine, debt-free, and happily single, walking with the Lord and I think she might even read it.
StaceG03 18 days ago
This book is sooo relatable as a mom of a preteen. It covers so many current current areas of concern and helps put us on a path to empowering ourselves and our girls. More importantly, how to do so walking in faith.
krschopmeyer 18 days ago
Reading through this book showed me EXACTLY what I needed (and what my mother needed- and still needs) when I was growing up and becoming my own woman. Now as a mom to a beautiful young daughter, I see where I can improve to make my life and hers (and thus generations down the road) better. Her life depends on how she is raised and what she is shown. Let us continue to build the confident daughters as we gain the confidence ourselves!! Highly recommenced for all women of any age!!
Anonymous 18 days ago
I have truly enjoyed this book. I have three adolescent daughters and I believe that it should be required reading for Mothers everywhere. The book is full of nuggets of truth and discussion questions that are really opening my daughter up to talking about her own self confidence issues. While reading this book, one can truly sense that the Holy Spirit led Maria to write it, for such a time as this! Get this book and as you read it, you will begin to feel that same Holy Spirit begin to do a work in you and in your daughter. One part that I especially appreciated was the Q&A section with a pediatrician about BMI, the truths conveyed there were so helpful! I also appreciate the author’s vulnerability in sharing things about her own life and crediting God for making the transformation. Thank you for your review.
Anonymous 20 days ago
I’d like to recommend Maria’s book for anyone who has a teenage daughter! We know that our daughters' self image is being influenced by so many sources as she grows up, especially since we’re not always with her anymore. Outside of our homes, the pressure to be physically “beautiful” and to "fit in" surrounds our teens, in magazines, on TV, and even on product packaging in stores! Maria inspires you create a healthy world view for your daughter through realizations you’ll come to about *yourself* and your own attitudes toward beauty, food, exercise, and your true identity in God! Very rewarding to read and discuss with my teen, and didn’t expect some of the conversations we had as a result of this book. Highly recommend!!
Anonymous 24 days ago
“Confident Moms, Confident Daughters” addresses the struggles of women in their lives and challenges of raising daughters. Maria uses her personal experiences from teenager to grown woman and offers insight into how we can be strong and faithfully grounded in how we see ourselves and love our daughters. Written with teenagers in mind, this book applies to moms of daughters of all ages! In addition to personal experiences, Maria interviews experts to affirm her understanding of healthy parenting. Each chapter provides individual mom challenges, discussion questions to share with our daughters, and guided prayer for the topics discussed. I am excited to share this book with all my girlfriends with daughters!
Anonymous 24 days ago
From the moment I found out I was having a girl, I've wondered how my own issues and struggles will affect her. I've worried about how she will feel about herself as the world bombards her with messages that are discouraging, damaging, and untrue. I've wanted to give my daughter the tools she needs to live free from insecurity and be confident in who she is in Christ. Maria Furlough wrote this book for me, and she wrote it for you, too! It's full of wisdom, encouragement, and practical challenges as we walk this road together with our daughters. One of my favorite chapters covers social media, complete with heart checks for moms and daughters. I also appreciate all the expert advice she includes in each chapter, the practical challenges, and the prayers. I highly recommend it!
4438582 25 days ago
"Confident Moms, Confident Daughters" is an essential guidebook for every mom raising a daughter. Author Maria Furlough digs down to the heart of the matter, addressing ideas about body image, confidence issues, and so much more. She then shares practical ways to make positive changes. The book includes personal reflections, statistics, expert interviews, prayers and other unique perspectives. My favorite features of the book are the questions and activity ideas used to spark discussions with my own daughter. A must-read!
JoRose81 25 days ago
I realized years ago that I cannot protect my children from pain. Or stop it from coming Or be there all the time for all the things. But I can give them Jesus.” I am so thankful for the encouraging words of wisdom from Maria Furlough in this book. This book does not shy away from the unique challenges of raising daughters in today's culture. Maria reminded me that we are our daughters first teacher in how to interact with the world around them. I loved the ideas that Maria shared of fun ways to connect with my daughters. I would recommend this book to any mother of daughters.
Anonymous 25 days ago
What confidence this book brings to me as a mom, former teacher, and a small group leader of teens. It is practical truth with incredible questions for the adult and youth. I love that it is not just the author's opinion, but also professionals feedback in interviews on body image and health. Read it!!!!!!
Anonymous 25 days ago
We live in a competitive world where women of all ages struggle with a multitude of issues that suffocate the confidence right out of us. It’s a confidence our Creator so desperately wants us to have. We have to squint hard to see who God made us to be, and it's easy to lose focus. Maria Furlough invites you in and discusses the real struggles. I cannot wait to read this a second time.....WITH both of my 12 year-old daughters. I pray it will be the catalyst for many great conversations. The message in this book is one the next generation needs to know and hear! I want to exude the confidence to be the EXACT person GOD created me to be~ just as I am. And I want to help model that confidence to my daughters so they can do the same! This book will move you and I highly recommend it, and that you pass it on to your daughters as well.
LaurenDV 25 days ago
Part of parenting is anticipating what is coming down the road in our parenting journey. With two girls in our family, I know body image, confidence in who they are and how they look is going to be something we need to address. So I am SO pleased to have this book in my arsenal. Maria Furlough has written an absolute gem of a guidebook for moms on helping our daughters live confidently in how they look. It is FULL of valuable research, conversations with professionals, and tremendous insight into how to build our own confidence as mothers if we lack it (and I would say most of us do!) so that we can help our daughters build their confidence in healthy ways. Maria is very practical, including a "Confident Mom Challenge" and conversation questions to delve into with our daughters throughout. I feel equipped after reading it! As Maria says: "We are the confidence standards in our homes. We set the tone and the example of what confidence looks like. Whether we like it or admit it, our daughters notice the way we look at ourselves in the mirror, and they hear us mutter under our breath. The battle is on. We are in the spotlight, and we have a job to do."
Anonymous 25 days ago
This book is a must-read for any mom, whether you have daughters or sons. We all need to learn to live without insecurities. One of my favorite quotes from this book is, "What we say to our daughters (and sons) lasts a moment. What we show our daughters (and sons) lasts a lifetime. Let's be confident moms who raise confident daughters (and sons)." I've been excited to be part of the launch team for this book! I recommend it!
Anonymous 25 days ago
I really enjoyed this book by Maria Furlough. She offers much needed advice on how to talk to our daughters about body image issues and how to model confidence for them. Our kids hear what we say to them and what we say about ourselves. Maria encourages and equips readers to send healthy messages that break the bonds of insecurity.
Darci3 25 days ago
With truth, wit and grace, Maria Furlough tackles extremely important, yet rarely discussed, issues surrounding the layers of emotions women carry concerning body image, self-worth, and adequacy. When reading this book, we are reminded that if we won't face and wrestle with these issues as adult women, we are at extreme risk of passing our unresolved body issues on to our daughters. There is so much at stake here, that I believe any woman involved in the day-to-day caregiving of the next generation of girls would benefit from the wisdom of this book. And thankfully, Maria provides us with a path through the struggle if we are willing to walk it ourselves, and then again while holding the hands of our daughters.
CherylHarris 26 days ago
'What's the secret ingredient to raising a confident daughter? Answer: a confident mom. Find out how you can raise your daughter to love herself (and gain some of your own self-confidence in the process)' If you have a daughter or any young lady in your life, this is a MUST read!! I wish I had this book when my daughter was growing up. Author Maria Furlough's book is filled with wisdom that will help you build confidence in yourself so that you can model that to your daughter. Maria shares her own struggles that will help encourage you to know that you are a daughter of the King and in Him we find our confidence. After reading this book, I became more aware of how powerful words and actions are and how they are so impactful in my daughter's life.
JgurlB 26 days ago
Our girls are like us genetically (physically) AND environmentally (spiritually). HOW we raise them plays a huge part in how they manage themselves. We have so much to deal with as women. It can be hard but it is a blessing to be mothers raising the next generation of strong, confident women God intended them to be in areas that are most important. Maria makes it ok to be vulnerable about our own insecurities, and when and how to talk to our girls about them so we can do exactly that! Although this book has questions to think about and/or share with your daughter at the end of every chapter, it is a must-read for all mommas, regardless of age and stage of their daughter. It is such a perfect addition to your personal library!
Mrs_B1 26 days ago
CMCD is a great and easy read! Maria really taps into the importance of being honest as well as when it’s appropriate to share with our daughters. I’m a boy mom so I don’t have any daughters of my own but I do influence the lives of several young women, my nieces and my goddaughter. This is very useful tool as I continue to share, disciple and support them. It almost makes me want to have a daughter of my own… naw I’m good! Confident Moms Confident Daughters is a MUST READ.
Dorcas Oliva 26 days ago
"CONFIDENT MOMS, CONFIDENT DAUGHTERS" is a "must-have", must-read" book for MOMS with daughters (no matter what age they are)! It is a great read. Lots of practical ways on how to deal and communicate with daughters especially growing in this day and age. This book will not only boosts MOMS' confidence in relating to their daughters but will also help daughters have a better outlook in life and hopefully through Mom's confidence, be a better role model to them. Best words from Maria that I will forever remember as a MOM: "What we say to our daughters (or sons) lasts a moment. What we show our daughters (or sons) LASTS A LIFETIME." Grab a copy NOW! Even if you do not have a daughter (as yet...), you will learn and take away a lot of things as a MOM. I DID!!! -O'Creatives by DEE
Anonymous 26 days ago
No matter how, prepared you think you are as a mother, skillfully walking with your daughter through the minefield of insecurities can feel overwhelming. Maria Furlough takes your hand and shows you how to negotiate your way, while teaching you and your daughter to become the confident women God desires you to be. No matter what your age or situation, you will find the joy on your shared journey of becoming a confident mom and confident daughter.